Cycle of Socialization and Student Identity

My Identities

Student- I think being a student is an important part of who I am because I always love to learn and expand my knowledge. I’m a very curious person so being a student helps me channel my curiosity, and because you never stop learning.

African-American- This identity is something people will always identify me as without knowing my background. Yes, I consider myself African-American but I also have other cultural aspects to me that attribute to who I am.  I’ve always been interested in knowing who I am as an African-American and my ancestral history. I also have to be aware that I will have to overcome discrimination because of my skin color.

I believe and have faith in God- Faith in God is something I knew about but never studied for myself. Recently, now that I’m in my second semester of college I have decided to study God’s word. My faith in God is important to me because God has made me who I am for a purpose.

Female- Being a female is important in defining who I am because it makes up a lot of the characteristics I have. Such as how I think, my emotional being, and how my body differs from a male. Also it’s important for me to understand as a women society will treat me different from a man.

Roommate- When it comes to sleeping, showering, or cleaning my dorm that is when my identity becomes a roommate. I must no longer think about myself only but be considerate of others. Being a roommate is my least enjoyable identity but it is important to me because I have learned so much about myself and others.

Mentor/Advocator for higher education- This is an important identity for me because it is something I am passionate about. I am a mentor for Leaders in Education Awareness Program, this program allows me to reach out to k-8 students who may have social justice issues, come from low-income household, and the first to go to college. This identity is not an everyday identity but when I have the chance to educate a young student I will.

Cycle of Socialization and Student Identity

The Beginning: As a young child I had limited information on what a student was, but beginning home schooled at a young age I didn’t think of home as school compared to my other siblings. I did the action need as a student to please my mother but didn’t exactly know what a student was.

First Socialization- When I went to public school my first public school teacher doubted me. I didn’t obtain information like I was supposed to in elementary. I knew I was an intelligent individual but still thought lowly of myself. I thought as myself as an okay student who had many faults and learned differently than everyone else.  When my mother went back to school in her mid-30s and when I was in high school, she got her BS in Biology to become a biology teacher. That is when I really started learning about being a student and college. I would go to my mother’s school to go to her lectures and her professor’s office hours. It was a great moment in my life, I was proud of my mother and I was able to bond with her professors. My mother made me begin to think that a student and college was a norm.  My mother shapes a student as a positive identity for me.

Institutional/Cultural Socialization and Enforcement- When watching Disney channel and teen movies I always admired the person who was the nerd. The nerd was most of the time themselves, that is what I liked about the nerd. I knew that school wasn’t not how all media portrayed it to be. Social life was not what school was all about. Also the media had a lot of minorities who had dead in jobs and wanted to go to college a lot later after high school. That shaped me to not want to be that person who started a dead end job after high school. I took Honors and AP classes which many of the white students or lighter students who were in these classes were going to college, but many of my minority friends and classmates were going to two years or working.

I had realized that some of the students who didn’t go on to college or a four year didn’t have the support I got from both of my parent.

Result/Action (direction for change) – I felt guilty that my close friends didn’t get to experience college life like I did and the many other generation of students who would need to be educated about higher education. It resulted in me helping other students who didn’t have the support system that I had or resources. I took my action when I came to college to be a part of Leaders in Education Awareness Program so that young students could have the knowledge to be a successful student pursuing higher education.

Interpersonal Communication Skills/Helping Relationships

  • I think I could practice listening more on the bases of being able to summarize or get an overview of what my partner is saying. Also finding helping relationships that benefit me and the other person. I feel as if sometimes the other person is receiving but not giving anything back.
  • At least three characteristics that seem natural to me in helping is producing change, approachable and secure person, and one that involves communication and interaction.
  • I think helping styles that may be difficult to model or try are a relationship that involves feelings and a helping relationship that shows clear structure.
  • Ways to integrate these more difficult characteristics are to make it clear to the student that they must also pull their own weight and be willing to be independent to learn things. Also doing professional activities or one on ones with the student to ensure that feelings are okay in the helping relationship.

How to practice good ethics and strategies as a Peer educator?

1) Principles that cover situation one is to take responsible action if you learn about illegal behavior. In this principle you want to give the student insight of what potentially could happen, but doing it in a general way.This is very important not to point the finger at the student and judge them, but to appropriately guide them. What I think would be appropriate to say to students is to make sure they stay within the conduct of their school and are representing their university well. And just to be safe.  I think some of the follow-up actions are the student my get offended. Or not want to share with their peer educator again.

2) In the third situation I would use principles showing respect and dignity for the student and consulting supervisor. I think letting the student know  that you may not assist them in their workouts but leave with them a sense of confidence and motivation that they can think back on would be great. Also if unaware of how to tell or approach student in this situation then go to supervisor. I would tell the student to seek out roommates, classmates, and friends to go help keep them motivated. I would stress the fact that they their peers are the best possible people to go to because they are in the same place as you and can relate to your goal. I think some follow-up consequences can be the student no longer being motivated to their goal or feeling unworthy of their peer educator’s presence to help them out.

Self Assessment Reflection

I took the VIA-IS self assessment test. My top five results were kindness, fairness, spiritually, teamwork, and curiosity. I learned that I know much more about my self than I think I do. I would tell myself I was this type of person, but didn’t believe it with in myself. I have to trust my instincts about myself.  I agree with the results, I think they are very much like me. I’m a simple going girl and I think these traits mirror that. However, I thought curiosity would be higher up between 1 &2.